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A few years ago, on my 41st birthday, I wrote a list of 41 things I’d love to tell my 21-year old self. I check in on the list every now and then to remember what I’ve learned so far and to remind myself to keep learning and keep adding to the list.

Today, I’ve added a few more things to that list. Three, to be specific.

So here goes. Here are 44 things I’d love to tell my younger self.

What I’d love to know is what advice or words of wisdom would you give to your younger self?

Here’s my list from a few years ago, with three new items at the end:

  1. Although it may not be obvious at first, everything happens for a reason.
  2. The book is *always* better than the movie.
  3. Flowers are never necessary to send, but they’re always nice to get.
  4. If a baby is squirming, brace yourself. Something is coming out from one end or the other.
  5. Motherhood is the sweetest gift. Dads have it incredibly good – but moms are incredibly lucky.
  6. Setting every clock you own ahead ten minutes does not guarantee you’ll be early.
  7. A calm mommy makes for a calm baby.
  8. Constantly worrying or obsessing about pleasing other people is complete and utter bullshit.
  9. You don’t need anyone’s approval to live your own life.
  10. Marriage takes work, focus and commitment – it’s not a really long date.
  11. Ferris Bueller was right – life moves fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
  12. Confidence, really believing in yourself,Β is the key to everything.
  13. Travel every chance you get.
  14. Have goals, Have a plan. But live in the moment.
  15. Laugh as often as possible.
  16. Trust your gut.
  17. Even though you know the secrets, still keep the magic of Christmas.
  18. Sex is good. Really! It is.
  19. No need to be a “little Hercules” with the weight of the world on your shoulders…put your mind at ease.
  20. Just like yoga, life is about the practice – not perfection.
  21. Everyone has a story, a challenge, a need to be loved – so judge not!
  22. It’s better to have a really good healthy fight than to walk on eggshells just to keep the peace.
  23. It’s OK to enjoy being a girl – you’re not letting down the feminists.
  24. Republicans aren’t so bad πŸ˜‰
  25. Glinda the Good Witch was right. You had the power all along.
  26. There’s nothing more annoying than a “yes” person at work. Dare to be bold and express another viewpoint.
  27. There’s something to this visualization thing. Read “The Secret”, get a vision board and go with it.
  28. Mothers really do sleep with one eye and one ear open and walk around with their heart on their sleeves. It’s infinitely exhausting, but wildly gratifying.
  29. Happiness is a choice.
  30. Words are powerful
  31. Don’t spend more than eight hours a day at work and don’t bring work home.
  32. Never burn a bridge. It simply isn’t worth the satisfaction.
  33. Get a good camera and when you don’t have it handy, take lots of pictures with your heart.
  34. Own your own personal truth and get rid of skeletons in the closet.
  35. Empathy is one of the most important virtues.
  36. Things aren’t always what they seem. Don’t jump to conclusions.
  37. Forgive.
  38. Talk to your children honestly, clearly and in plain English – don’t baby talk and don’t gloss over important things.
  39. Never sweep anything under the carpet; deal with everything openly and honestly.
  40. Have your husband’s and your kids’ backs at all times
  41. You are stronger than you know.
  42. Live with no regrets.
  43. We can do hard things (borrowed from the amazing Glennon Doyle)
  44. Dare greatly (borrowed from the great Brene Brown)

A drawing by my 10-year old. I’m the short one in green next to my super-tall husband πŸ™‚


  1. Wonderful read Kim! Really makes you stop and think. Thank you!

  2. 1. Be grateful for something everyday. Even keep a gratitude journal
    2. When you don’t know what to say to God, saying a heartfelt Thank you is enough
    3. Family is the most important thing
    4. Be Bold! Be Courgeous!
    5. Don’t let anyone hold you back from your dreams.

  3. Wow! Happy Birthday, and kudos for a serious, great list!!! I love the family portrait. πŸ™‚

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